Blind spot

What’s your blind spot?

To most people the idea of having a blind spot feels unpleasant. It is about something you don’t know, can’t see, and where it’s hard to defend yourself against. Yet a blind spot offers you the best chance to bring about a real change in yourself. Discussing a blind spot is also a great way to build a deeper bond with someone else. Let’s start …

Clean wash

The purifying power of acceptance

Life always goes on, with or without you. Sometimes you’re lucky, sometimes not. What can you do if you suddenly feel that everything acts against you? I always follow these 3 steps: Recognize: take a balcony view on your situation, how do things work together? Accept: acknowledge the core of your problem, and stop evading Let go: use your energy differently, refocus your attention, so that …

Start creating order!

How to start with “creating order”? The usual advice is to make a plan in which you record the most important choices and actions and decide what you’ll do and what you don’t, in which order and how. Sometimes structure is experienced as following a somewhat rigid discipline. All too often one starts with organizing and laying down new rules (possibly as a replacement for …

If everything becomes a bit too much…

You sit on the edge of your bed. You don’t know if you have to drop yourself back and pull the blankets over you, or if you have to fight the brackish feeling in your stomach with food and coffee. Outside everything seems gray and boring. If you look through the window, it’s crawling with people, like ants in a senseless struggle against intrusive and …

Ingrown relationship urge

You would expect that after a few thousand years of developing relationships with each other, mankind would have found an efficient way to avoid all the drama. Through the ages literature and other art deal with the problems associated with the building of relationships, and in modern times all kinds of therapies and methods have been devised to make it easier for people.
The conclusion is clear: we still have not learned anything!