Personality models, meaningful or not?

Have you ever done a personality test? Probably. And what did you do with the outcome? Did it feel OK? Are you proud of it? Are you actively trying to deploy and use it? They come in many shapes and sizes, from short, simple questionnaires in magazines to extensive tests via websites. Sometimes with a scientific background, and sometimes more for some pastime fun. After …

Start creating order!

How to start with “creating order”? The usual advice is to make a plan in which you record the most important choices and actions and decide what you’ll do and what you don’t, in which order and how. Sometimes structure is experienced as following a somewhat rigid discipline. All too often one starts with organizing and laying down new rules (possibly as a replacement for …

If everything becomes a bit too much…

You sit on the edge of your bed. You don’t know if you have to drop yourself back and pull the blankets over you, or if you have to fight the brackish feeling in your stomach with food and coffee. Outside everything seems gray and boring. If you look through the window, it’s crawling with people, like ants in a senseless struggle against intrusive and …

Am I normal?

“Am I normal? ” That’s not a question you should ask yourself too often. Without being overly confident, most of the time you should not have to worry about it. Yet it happens to us all, that gnawing doubt if you feel that your message doesn’t come across. You are not understood, everyone goes a different way and ignores you. People are angry with you, give …

Relaxation with Wu-Wei.

“Wu-Wei specialist “… If you do not know me, you may frown your eyebrows, otherwise I suspect you are smiling. Yet few people will understand why I give myself this somewhat presumptuous qualification. Very much is written about the Taoist concept Wu-Wei (literally: “do not do“, or in the paradox Wei Wu-Wei “do by not doing“). As a child I was always confused by the …