Coaching is meant for people whose life temporarily became unsatisfactory because of a particular situation. Often your thoughts and feelings revolve around in the same repetitive patterns then, and you therefore have difficulty finding ways to solutions. You stay stuck in behavior about which you are actually not so happy. A coach then helps you not only by offering a listening ear, but also by asking critical questions, making suggestions, and keeping the mirror in front of you. The goal of a coach is always to get you back in balance so that you can continue independently. With ReRuBab’s e-Coaching, I use the interactions between heart (your feelings), brains (your rational considerations) and the world (your environment in which you live with) as a working model. That model is, as it were, a puzzle that, once you understand it, has also become soluble.
The concept of e-Coaching uses the effect of written communication on our awareness process.
Once you write something down, your mind starts sorting things out, creating kind of a structure that makes sense to you. Intuitively you determine what you write down and what you omit. You then take a break and read again later what you have written down to see if you are satisfied with it.
This mental process is the reason why people have a diary, or write poems and songs. This is why a letter to someone you have a conflict with feels better than a verbal face-2-face confrontation. Don’t get me wrong: in the end the distance between people always has to be bridged! There’s no way of living together socially without direct interaction. Verbal communication, body language, but also things like making and enjoying music are essential to bond people towards the community we need to be.
For coaching written communication is very useful. Certainly when we do that via internet (“e-coaching” ):
- There’s no need to match our busy schedules to make an appointment
- Nowadays we always have our communication device with us, and most of the time we’re connected to the internet
- There’s an anonymity that makes it easier to voice things out that you usually wouldn’t (one of the reasons why people share things so easily on social media)
- You can always review previous communication; there’s no risk that interpretations take over from actual wordings