Fresh from the press: the Dutch minister Zijlstra has to give up his post because of spreading and maintaining untruth.
In a time when moral values and justice are so important, you can hardly imagine that a minister makes such a mistake. Of course it is not only about the lie itself, but especially about how the information was used to influence certain choices. Isn’t that familiar? Fake News, disinformation, populist brainwash …. Our era is full of it. Some of the most powerful people on earth do this all the time, often through social media that should not be taken that seriously anyway. Why do people do that? With a little #CommonSense, you know that a lie ultimately works against you, if only because you have to maintain something that cannot be proven. Yet it has been going on for thousands of years day after day, everywhere on this earth. In fact, I think that every once in a while all of us are guilty of lying in one area or another. Sometimes that is just bragging. Very often it is a way to avoid confrontations with yourself or others. And of course there are the many cases where a lie is wrapped in a rosy, one-sided and exaggerated story, intended to manipulate people into a certain (buying) behavior. Sooner or later this always ends, but unfortunately damage can already have been done.
As soon as you really want to develop, transparency and honesty towards yourself is extremely important. That is not easy. Your brain is looking for the easiest way using a #BrainTrick, and can easily justify half-truths. If you are very dependent on a lie, your brain will do so even more convincingly. Just as Holleeder says in court about his death threats to his sister’s address: “Ah, I just said something!” Such trivializing justifications always appear first, even in the case of Zijlstra. His fellow ministers thought it was a mistake, but not a mortal sin. More idealistically-minded politicians do not understand that; for them, politics is a calling with certain norms and values. But for others, politics is just a profession where you earn well, and with which you build a network for the future. Just like in business, you get more #ControlPower through higher positions. This changes your image of what is acceptable.
Honesty is the best policy!
You have to decide for yourself whether you want to live with a lie or not. Moreover, it is totally acceptable not to share everything about you and your life publicly, unless it is expected in your position within the current moral standards. If donations for government employees are to be registered, you can not conceal an expensive apartment obtained from a foreign ex-diplomat. Not even with a #BrainTrick excuse. It is not a question of word games.
I always advise you to use your #CommonSense. Actually just never lie, especially not against yourself. Because a lie has power over you. A lie determines your behavior, your thinking, your emotional balance, and your ultimate position in the world around you. And if you lied “occasionally”, then you can best be as honest as possible about it. That behavior is valued better than useless and half-baked excuses. You can’t do that too often: it is ultimately about how trustworthy you are, for others, but especially for yourself. And if you’re ever confronted with someone else’s lie hurting you: expose it as fast as possible. Don’t wait until it controls your life!